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Help Save My Marriage – Excellent Tips

October 15th, 2009 by PatheticDad

Divorce rates are hitting new highs and knowing what to do to help save your marriage can extremely difficult and frustrating, especially since every couple is different. There are many avenues to look at to help save your marriage. From books and video’s to marriage counselors and support groups.

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Some of the most difficult divorces are when there are children in the equation. Think about how they are affected. Raising a child as a single parent with less disposable income available makes it even more difficult. With money now going for 2 sets of rent or house payments, their is less to raise the children. As a result divorce leads to many more children being raised in poor conditions. What about the emotional and social problems that most children will go through as a result their parent going through a nasty divorce. When a couple come and says, help save my marriage, it is often because of the children.

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There are many folks that have written books and courses around the help save my marriage theme. Ed Wheat, James Dobson, and Phil McGraw are just a few of the many who have written books and made shows that some people will attest have saved their marriages.

You ‘ll often hear as a reason for divorce, that we have fallen out of love with each other. The issue we have with someone saying they fell in love and now their falling out of love, is a poor line of reasoning. Love is a verb, which is an action type word. True love means laying down your life for someone else. As the saying goes, you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar. Honey is sweet. Love is sweet. Keep giving and giving love and you’ll have a much better chance of getting loved in return.

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When the marriage is going south and divorce has become the seemingly best option, start to look at where you are the problem and where you could improve. Often times, one of the couple is unsatisfied and feels their not getting their needs met like they think they should. Right communication is vital and for a healthy relationship both of you need to be able to be free to openly share your needs and difficulties.

Some great quotes and tips on criticism and gossip.

Words are real things! They bless or they curse, they lift up or they knock down, they save or they damn!
A cup brimful of sweet water cannot spill even one drop of bitter water, however suddenly jolted.
To escape criticism–do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.
Little lessons from the wise, should not commence with “criticise”.
A critical spirit sows dissension, disunity & discord amongst brethren, one of the seven abominations to God!
Rumour is a great traveller.
Too often when you tell a secret it goes in one ear & in another.
Passing the buck started in the Garden of Eden. The first form of self-defense is blaming others.
There’s only one way to change the unruly tongue, & that is to transform the spirit that controls it.
There is always something wrong with a man, as there is with a motor, when he knocks continually.
Of all the weapons of warfare, the tongue has been the greatest when it gets loose!
A hypocrite is a person who pretends to be burying the hatchet when she’s only digging up dirt.
Before you flare up at someone’s faults, take time to count ten–ten of your own.
One eye-witness is better than two hear-says.
There is so much good in the worst of us, & so much bad in the best of us, that it hardly behooves any of us to talk about the rest of us.

For those asking for help and saying please, help save my marriage, need to prepare your hearts for the possibility of a lot of ups and downs in the process. Realize that it will take time and perseverance and that it may be awhile till you see any results. If both of you are willing to work on your marriage, that helps a lot. But if it’s just you, don’t lose hope. Your marriage can be saved! When two people who have left the spark go out, focus on getting the flame lit again, great things can happen. A marriage that has weathered the storms and made it to the peaceful waters on the other side, is a marriage that now has some great substance to it. This marriage can become an awesome role model marriage for others to look to.

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