July 24th, 2010 by PatheticDad
Based on over 200 interviews and 13 years of counseling experience, psychologist Sandra Kahn has written the first guide to offer help to women whose unresolved issues keep them emotionally bound to their ex-husbands, even years after a divorce is final.
Leaving Him Behind: Cutting the Cord and Breaking Free After the Marriage Ends
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July 4th, 2010 by PatheticDad
“Parents looking for a book about separation or divorce will find few offerings as positive, matter-of-fact, or child-centered as this one. . . . Simple, yet profoundly satisfying. – BOOKLIST (starred review)
At Mommy’s house, Alex has a soft chair. At Daddy’s house, Alex has a rocking chair. In each home, Alex also has a special bedroom and lots of friends to play with. But whether Alex is with Mommy or with Daddy, one thing always stays the same – Alex is loved. The gently reassuring text focuses on what is gained rather than what is lost when parents divorce, while the sensitive illustrations, depicting two unique homes in all their small details, firmly establish Alex’s place in both of them. TWO HOMES will help children – and parents – embrace even the most difficult of changes with an open and optimistic heart.
Price: $6.99
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June 24th, 2010 by PatheticDad
Addison is a regular kid whose parents are going through a divorce, but he knows that no matter what happens, his parents will always love him. The text in this beautifully illustrated picture book is inspiring, gentle, and uplifting, and teaches kids that having two homes to live in can be just as great as having two strong feet to stand on.
Standing on My Own Two Feet: A Child’s Affirmation of Love in the Midst of Divorce
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May 28th, 2010 by PatheticDad
Incomplete recovery from grief can have a lifelong negative effect onyour capacity for happiness. Drawing from their own histories, as wellas from others, the authors illustrate what grief is and how it ispossible to recover and regain energy and spontaneity. Based on a provenprogram, now extensively revised, The Grief Recovery Handbookoffers grievers the specific actions needed to complete the grievingprocess and accept loss. For those ready to regain a sense of aliveness,the principles outlined here make this a life-changinghandbook.
The Grief Recovery Handbook : The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death Divorce, and Other Losses
Price: $1.09
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October 15th, 2009 by PatheticDad
Ways To Save Marriage From Divorce!
To get divorced doesn’t seem to be such a big deal anymore. It seems that the whole world has been steadily moving down this slippery slope. The so called role models lives are a mess, and look where following them and looking up to them has gotten us. The covenant understanding of marriage has not been understood, and divorce lawyers are everywhere, peddling their services and all the so called advantages of using them. Many people believe that a divorce is the only option when things don’t seem to be going well. Aristotle once said that there is always a third option, and if you look closely there may be more.
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Many studies have been done and show that divorce isn’t the key to happiness. Another study showed a very insightful fact, that over 60% of marriages that were in trouble. but they worked on saving their marriage were still together and had a good marriage 5 years later. Focusing and a strong commitment to making it work are crucial to save marriage from divorce. The marriage union is supposed to connect the very hearts of a man and a woman together. The fact that there was a wedding, a knitting together of two people to become one, is a mockery that a marriage took place. There are many strategies to save marriage from divorce. Below we will cover several critical points to help you with saving your marriage from divorce.
Open communication is vital to restoring a marriage. Most marriage trouble stems from poor or bad communication.
Some common marriage problems we show you how to solve:
- A Sexless Marriage
- Alcohol Use Problems
- Drug Use Problems
- Financial Problems
- Emotional Abuse
- never tells me he loves me
- Child Issues
- Inlaw Problems
- always criticizing
- Poor Hygiene Problems
- bad breath
- never gives compliments
Many couples still struggle with basic housekeeping chores that need to be done. Maintaining a transparent communication system will virtually eliminate any chance and opportunity for mistrust or any other marriage problems to enter. You need to focus on making your marriage the best it can be. Basic economics state that when your focus is on one thing, you will be excluding something else. Most divorces are a result of adultery or disloyalty of some type. With two different individuals, it takes time and effort to have a great marriage Often, stupid little things get blown out of proportion and become larger than life. Then those things get used as an excuse as to why one was unfaithful. Let’s grow up here and stop being so selfish.
In many cases, your not going to make it without some help, often you need someone that is able to discern the problems that neither of you are seeing. Marriage counselors are all around. Finding one that is able to really help both of you is critical. Look for ones that have had a lot of success in the past. Don’t feel like asking for help is a bad thing in any way.
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Remember that divorce has its penalties, which include deep emotional problems, shame and sometimes incredible financial losses. Plus the effects it has on family relationships that may be lost forever. Bottom line, a home with love, that focuses on forgiveness is a home where divorce doesn’t stand a chance.
It’s time to Save Marriage From Divorce
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August 26th, 2009 by PatheticDad
Feeling or labeling yourself a victim of your divorce is one of the most disastrous moves you can make. It will prevent you from moving forward into a new life. Victim hood renders you powerless. To create a new life after your divorce takes a person who is fully responsible for their past, present and future.
The best set of words to describe being depressed married life is pain, loneliness, and, maybe, even torture. There is no intimacy, unlimited amount of work, and not too much fun. This is enough for anyone to break. But you still love him, feel sorry for him, or feel that it leaving him is not a good option, so you stick around.Compel women to be attracted to you. Learn formulas to attract women so that finally women will approach you. Tactics guaranteed to boost confidence! Click pleasing your partner.
It is so much easier to place blame on someone else then accept personal responsibility. The fact is that two people inhabit all marriages. Those two people are co-creators of their marriage and their divorce. Even if one of the partners was unfaithful or a liar, there are always signs along the way that we either refused to see or to acknowledge.
At the outset, one of the most common reasons why marriages fail is that people will not listen to one another to seek understanding. In today’s society there are very few people who would listen to what others say and seek improvement from that. After marriage, people think that they already know everything about their spouse, when in fact; they could know just the opposite.
A huge chunk of singles and divorced people are by fact sexually starved. They do not call the shots like married people would at anytime of the day or night. Sex in this case refers not just to the physical act, but a wholesome emotionally fulfilling sex life which feels divine. Some people get married due to pressure from family and society in general. So as not to feel like the odd one out, many enter into marriage relationships.
Speaking of cheating, loyalty is a very big issue concerning marriages. A very high reason for the fifty percent of marriage failures is the lack of loyalty between the man and the woman. Obviously, when the person said that they would take care of one another and to love their partner at the wedding chapel, they were not telling the truth. Why do men run away from love? Here’s how to know if he’s lost attraction for you, and how to avoid the common mistakes that make good men leave, click online dating advice.
There are a tremendous amount of people and their spouses who suffer from depression. Don’t allow yourself to become addicted to other people’s opinions and don’t fall in the victim thinking so you will not be part of this unfortunate statistic.
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August 1st, 2009 by PatheticDad
Well, this is not just another article for a blog. This is a real true life story.
8 years ago, I caught my wife and her boyfriend about their affairs. Warn both of them to stop it or else I will take legal action on him and will file a divorce (my kids were just 5 & 6 years old)
Since the guy was working under work permit as construction worker, he will be barred/banned from entering Singapore, if I were to make a report to the ministry of manpower.
Since my wife ask to forgive her and never to see him again forever and stating that his future will be jeopardize and he needs to support his aged old parents and his siblings back home in India, I let him go.
And I thought of my family harmony and my 2 kid’s future (to avoid our family break-up), I have been patient tolerating it for over 8 years keeping it to myself.. 
They promise me they will not see each other forever but verbal promise is nothing to them.
But seems they are seeing each other, going out to hotels and parks at night and I even found a photo of them taken together in a park at night.
If file for a divorce, my kids will suffer? The “LAW” always supports the women and will give custody to the mother. (I have been hiding this from my kids,) they love their mother very, very much.
By following the mother…. will my kids get good family ethics and value from her?
If they were to find out the truth about their mother’s affair being the reason for the divorce….. I am afraid and worried they will be depressed and affect their studies as well as their future.
Will my son & daughter (15 & 14) be able to face the truth or reality as a MAN & LADY about the mother affairs at this schooling age?
Because of her… I am already depressed and had a heart attach and not sure when will be the next one How long do I or should I suffer?
Should I make a report to the MINISTRY OF MANPOWER or seeks help from the MINISTRY OF COMMUNITY DEVELOPMENT or SHOULD I FILE A DIVORCE, let them go and let them live happily together.
And ours was a “Love Marriage” that’s “Pathetic…..” now I realize why my son called me so… intentionally or what so ever…
Things I do and have been doing…? And gradually losing interest in doing so..
- Help in the house… like cooking, marketing & purchasing (including “whisper” & others etc.,)
- Washing, drying & ironing all our clothes (including her panties etc., well, I find it’s nothing wrong to do so, when she wash & dry my under pants)
- Driving her to work and fetch her from work (I have no choice, now I am just doing it as a commitment)
- Massage her legs & her body, as and when she needs it.
- I don’t gamble,
- I don’t drink (now I started to drink),
- I don’t womanize or go clubbing (except when I go out with my clients to club for socialization)
- Have been Earning enough money for the family (now unable to focus in my business and totally lost my interest in it)
- I am still “Strong & Active” for her personal fantasy and needs
- I am not a women beater., believe a man don’t beat his women.
- ok, average looking (my mum is Chinese & dad is Indian)
I have been asking myself, What’s wrong or missing in me….. Being a good friend, honest, practical, caring, down-to-earth, humorous ….. expect I can’t dance or sing songs
I wonder….. OUT THERE, WHAT’S EXACTLY ARE WOMEN LOOKING FOR IN THEIR MAN….?
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