October 19th, 2009 by PatheticDad
Remember when your heart simply soared at the sight of your lover?
What has happened to those wonderful feelings?
Does it feel like the fireworks have fizzled? The stresses of building careers, raising families, paying bills, meeting commitments, leave little time for relationships.
Each person in a committed relationship wants to feel that ones partner gets his or her essence.
There are many ways to rekindle your love life, but most only induce temporary fires which soon die away. The best approach is to do induce little changes and to build on them consistently. To rekindle your love life, you must consistently impress your partner by doing the little things you know he/she would appreciate. Checking out on troubled marriage advice!
Work hard to keep your relationship exciting. Maintain your physical appearance by smelling and looking your best. Buy yourself a new outfit or two and show your best side to him whenever you are together. This will demonstrate to your boyfriend that you respect yourself enough to keep up your good looks. Men find self-confidence very attractive.
Hear what your partner is saying with an openness of heart. You came together by choice accepting your different backgrounds and upbringing. Step back and see your partner objectively. When you do, you will hear and accept whatever is said as belonging to your partner. Listening objectively allows you to hear with an open heart and not from your fear or anxiety.
The important point is that you must find ways to resolve those conflicts. By all means take time off to cool down but after a storm, both of you have to sit down and discuss the issue together. You have to listen to each other and find a solution or come to a compromise but never leave the fight overnight. It is very unhealthy to go to bed angry and you will only cause a drift in the relationship if you do not try to resolve your problem first.
Learning how to get back together with your ex means you have to work out what went wrong and find a solution to avoid the same problem repeating itself in the future. If you don’t find the right answer, the relationship can never be brought together again as the same old problems will soon come to the surface again.
It is necessary that both of you provide sufficient time to be together in your daily schedule. This is the first step that needs to be taken. There cannot be excuses here. Try to maintain an emotional connection with your partner throughout the day. Small gestures of affection can help maintain that sense of closeness. Click on advice for marriages for more informative resources.
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July 30th, 2009 by PatheticDad
Dating relationships, whether good or bad, can teach a person a lot about him or herself. New relationships can fill a person with confidence, inspiration, hope and love. However, relationships that turn negative can lead to uncertainty, shame and depression.
Therefore, it’s important to understand what constitutes sexual relationships and unhealthy relationships. When a couple feels they’ve “been through so much,” it can be difficult to decide when to cut ties and run free, until it’s too late, and one or both psyches are damaged.
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Communicating properly within romance relationships is often easier in theory than in practice, yet each partner should still strive for maintaining positive interaction. For instance, accusing someone with “you never listen to me,” or “you always forget to call me,” will automatically put the other person in a defensive position.
Instead, a positive partner will simply state how he or she feels. “Sometimes I feel that you don’t listen to me because…” would be a more appropriate way of communicating; or one could say, “I felt really disappointed when you didn’t call today and wondered why you didn’t do what you promised.”
Tone is also important. Couples should avoid sarcastic remarks, putting the other person down, blaming, name-calling, yelling or interrupting. Instead, a “How can we both work to fix this” approach should be taken to create more positive and effective interpersonal relationships.
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Marriage counseling therapists use tools that are also effective for dating relationships, such as a nine-step process called “Emotional Freedom Techniques.” When a couple arrives, the first step is to lay out the problems.
Most couples will fight over laundry or paying the bills, which are surface-level issues that may happen repetitively, but it’s the goal of the therapist to uncover the real relationship issues troubling them. The next step, then, is to realize the destructive cycle and the underlying needs/wants that fuel this negative pattern.
The third step is to understand what’s fueling one’s emotions. In the fourth step, partners become less combative and realize that no one is to blame, but rather, the cycle is the common enemy they must defeat. Partners become more honest and admit their deepest fears and desires in the fifth step.
In the sixth step, the partners should acknowledge each other’s feelings. In the seventh step, couples become closer because of the newfound realizations and the eighth step involves brainstorming and problem solving. Lastly, the partners vow to stay on-track and prevent relapses.
People from broken homes can find it extremely difficult to create healthy dating relationships. Our first experience of love and relationships begins at home with our parents’ example. Click Here!
Therefore, if the building relationships at home have been negative, then the child will have a skewed vision of what constitutes a “normal relationship.” Many people from broken homes find that they are always searching for what their family life has lacked.
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It is entirely possible to view an abusive upbringing as an example of what not to do. Some people in dating relationships can break out of these cycles and learn to live and love positively; although, many more people require some counseling to uncover negative behavioral patterns that have been adopted from childhood.
It’s important for the individual to do some soul-searching and remain honest about where one has been and where one is going. Otherwise, each relationship will be doomed to failure.
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July 1st, 2009 by PatheticDad
Hi, Welcome to Pathetic Dad.com Blog
You may be wondering why such a domain name being registered on this date – i.e., July 1st.
Well, there’s a reason behind this.
- First and foremost, a couple of months back my 16 years old son mumbled and said, I am “Pathetic”
- Since he’s 16 and grown up, doing his Secondary 3 Education, I believe, he has the freedom of speech or to voice up?
- My daughter, has no
comments and my wife scold him in-front of me but later laughs at my back.
- I wonder, How many dad’s are out there or am I the only one.
- Do parents have the right to scold their children if they are wrong? or What is taught in school about respect and obedience towards elders?
- Are the children being influence/learning it from their friends, who doesn’t give a damn about parents or elders?
- Is it too much of watching the TV sitcom or from chatting online with the friends which leads towards this behavior?
- Last but not the least, today being my birthday ~ as a Gift for myself and to remember it, I registered this domain name as “PatheticDad.com”
Here I will post happenings on the above subject as well as write articles on other matters too.
Will greatly appreciate, comments from all parents, children, teachers, counselors or anyone who would like to contribute or share their views.
Hope this will help similar parents or parents to be or to anyone deem fit.
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