How many times, will you forgive your spouse for having an sexual affair? And you’re married for 20 years?
Well, this is not just another article for a blog. This is a real true life story.
8 years ago, I caught my wife and her boyfriend about their affairs. Warn both of them to stop it or else I will take legal action on him and will file a divorce (my kids were just 5 & 6 years old)
Since the guy was working under work permit as construction worker, he will be barred/banned from entering Singapore, if I were to make a report to the ministry of manpower.
Since my wife ask to forgive her and never to see him again forever and stating that his future will be jeopardize and he needs to support his aged old parents and his siblings back home in India, I let him go.
And I thought of my family harmony and my 2 kid’s future (to avoid our family break-up), I have been patient tolerating it for over 8 years keeping it to myself.. 
They promise me they will not see each other forever but verbal promise is nothing to them.
But seems they are seeing each other, going out to hotels and parks at night and I even found a photo of them taken together in a park at night.
If file for a divorce, my kids will suffer? The “LAW” always supports the women and will give custody to the mother. (I have been hiding this from my kids,) they love their mother very, very much.
By following the mother…. will my kids get good family ethics and value from her?
If they were to find out the truth about their mother’s affair being the reason for the divorce….. I am afraid and worried they will be depressed and affect their studies as well as their future.
Will my son & daughter (15 & 14) be able to face the truth or reality as a MAN & LADY about the mother affairs at this schooling age?
Because of her… I am already depressed and had a heart attach and not sure when will be the next one How long do I or should I suffer?
Should I make a report to the MINISTRY OF MANPOWER or seeks help from the MINISTRY OF COMMUNITY DEVELOPMENT or SHOULD I FILE A DIVORCE, let them go and let them live happily together.
And ours was a “Love Marriage” that’s “Pathetic…..” now I realize why my son called me so… intentionally or what so ever…
Things I do and have been doing…? And gradually losing interest in doing so..
- Help in the house… like cooking, marketing & purchasing (including “whisper” & others etc.,)
- Washing, drying & ironing all our clothes (including her panties etc., well, I find it’s nothing wrong to do so, when she wash & dry my under pants)
- Driving her to work and fetch her from work (I have no choice, now I am just doing it as a commitment)
- Massage her legs & her body, as and when she needs it.
- I don’t gamble,
- I don’t drink (now I started to drink),
- I don’t womanize or go clubbing (except when I go out with my clients to club for socialization)
- Have been Earning enough money for the family (now unable to focus in my business and totally lost my interest in it)
- I am still “Strong & Active” for her personal fantasy and needs
- I am not a women beater., believe a man don’t beat his women.
- ok, average looking (my mum is Chinese & dad is Indian)
I have been asking myself, What’s wrong or missing in me….. Being a good friend, honest, practical, caring, down-to-earth, humorous ….. expect I can’t dance or sing songs
Tags:affairs,chastity,dating,divorce,Ethics,Family Values,Family Violence,Harmony,Love,marriage,Relationship,Relationships,true storyI wonder….. OUT THERE, WHAT’S EXACTLY ARE WOMEN LOOKING FOR IN THEIR MAN….?
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